DB got a call from his sister who lives with MIL. This sister is Justin’s mom, does not work, married and still lives on welfare. I hate folks who rely on welfare. They are bums. Anyway, the call was about their mother. She collapsed while getting up from the dining table after her dinner. Dinner plate and silverware were flying all over the place.
The kids took her to the ER, brought her back to consciousness, the doctor checked her all over, and gave her the green light to head home. She only had some bruises from the fall. The docs could not find anything wrong with her. The doctors made several appointments for her to get her EKG, annual, some heart test, lungs, liver, kidneys, and all the whole schbang for the following few days and weeks.
DB knows what is wrong with her. She drank too much.
Two days later, her daughter took her for her first series of tests. Her ears. MIL had a tumor removed several years ago. Those humongous tumors set her equilibrium tipsy turvy. Once those were removed, she could walk without falling a million times.
Her ears turned out great. No problem there.
Next, her lungs because she smokes like a chimney. Really, I thought I smoke a lot (1.5 packs a day) that woman probably smokes 2 packs a day. Chain smoker. Guess what??? I didn’t believe what I heard. Her lungs came out clear as a bell. Her doctor said she has a pair of lungs of a 20 year old non smoker!
The following week she went for her heart tests, liver, kidney and all the bloodwork. Results came back so good, that the docs had to redo the tests again, and still good.
I told DB it’s her genes. Her grandma died at the age of 99+, and her own mom died at the age of 98.
I asked DB what is really bothering her to make her drink so much. Is it the kids who are living with her and she has to support them? This lady has gone through a lot. DB told me she is the only person in the household to hold a bachelor’s degree. She was given the chance to be a full bird colonel, but she declined the offer from the Army. She was given the chance to live her husband after the 5th child was born, but she didn’t. She stayed on with him and added 4 more to the household. Husband was an alcoholic who only cares for himself. Abused her physically and mentally.
How familiar all these sounds.
DB said she was silly not to leave the husband. I told DB because she was afraid of him. I know, MIL told me the same thing. DB himself told me all the kids were so afraid of the old man, especially DB. Since he is the oldest, he gets all the beatings from the old man and the mom cannot intervened with the beatings. What a childhood.
The wife of an alcoholic is the co-dependent who unknowingly “supports” the husbands drinking. It is sad when I found out about it.
All of MIL’s symptoms: no appetite, cranky, mean, drinks gets stronger day by day, kept falling – are so much the same as DB’s. DB himself said that, too. Pretty soon if she keeps that drinking up, she will have muscle atrophy, and she will end up like her son. Unless she doesn’t care, she wants to drink to her death.
When I think about it, I feel so sad for her. DB said she really asked for it. She should have not help the kids whenever they were in trouble – the two middle girls. She supported them from the womb to now. Maybe that’s the reason she is stressed out. No other outlet to let her frustrations out, but to drink and smoke like her ex-hubby. Yeah, she divorced the husband after they moved to Texas in 1979.
Who knows what is bugging her. I told DB I do not want to go to Texas for a funeral – not on my first trip. MIL is not answering the phone either when DB called her.
So, what is really bugging the shit outta her?? I swear she needs to see a shrink.